Christian gender laws?

I mentioned the few misguided Christians who rely lazily on their gender as an excuse to indulge in preferred sins or to refuse actions they dislike. But another problem could arise: treating strong distinctions of gender behavior like Christian laws. This practice falls into the general category of mistaking cultural norms for divine norms. It might be expressed, "You can't be a good Christian [woman,man] unless you act like _____."

As I mentioned in the other entry, some cultural gender stereotypes are quite compatible with the life of a devotee...but some aren't, at least when carried to extremes. (I don't necessarily mean extreme in comparison to the standards of the culture itself, which as a whole could be off-kilter.) Moreover, restrictive ideas, interpreted as essential Christian commands, have a terrible side-effect of exclusion from the church gathering. Regardless of whether congregants don't consider it "sinful" to violate unstated gender expectations, social disapproval still communicates the violator's unworthiness.

It may be uncomfortable that people don't always fit in tidy gender-defined boxes. But nobody who calls themselves "Christian" has the right to claim that God made a mistake when He fashioned an unconventional individual.